Monthly Wisdom: Embrace traditions and rituals celebrating them with your
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Holidays and Traditions Create Stability

     Holidays and traditions are such a part of our lives. They are what help shape our daily activities while building character. They are times of great expectations. They are times which we cannot avoid no matter how painful or hectic these events may be to us. Actually, holidays and traditions give a person a sense of security just like curfews. Miss them and you'll be in deep trouble...

     Cardinal Rule: Create family traditions with unbroken covenants. Help your children find the security they need in activities which they will pass down to their children. Let them know that these events are special family centered moments, sacred times.

     Creating Memories Ideas: Always send cards, love notes, call if you can't be with your kids for the holiday. It is so vital that your children know they are loved and longed for. Failing to send a card, a note or make a call creates a feeling of abandonment. Imagine how your child might feel. Plan to be there for your kids.

     You can still establish traditions as a divorced household. Decide as a family what traditions and events you will celebrate and how. Ask the kids for their input so they can help build a memory as a new family unit. Respect and honor the other parent's activities. Plan ahead as a parenting team. Do not wait until the last minute to demand the kids or to bow out all together. Not knowing the schedule or having last minute changes really bruise the kids and all concerned. You may never recover their affections and trust.

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Holidays And Traditions Create Stability

What memories are you creating to last a lifetime?